My wife (28F) and I (30M) have been married for three years and initially agreed to remain childfree. However, after our wedding, she changed her mind and insisted on having a baby. I still didn’t want kids, so I secretly got a vasectomy last year. A few months later, she told me she was pregnant, and I immediately accused her of cheating—without revealing my vasectomy. She was shocked by my accusations, but a DNA test confirmed the baby is mine, meaning my vasectomy likely failed.

I apologized for accusing her, but I still haven’t admitted to the vasectomy. Now, she’s distant and considering divorce, believing I was more focused on cheating accusations than the pregnancy. I’m unsure if revealing the vasectomy would help or make things worse. How do we move forward, especially with a child on the way?